生活重心

看着别人把生活照一张一张的放上网分享，那些带有开心、满足、兴奋、欢乐的生活照~突然想到自己，其实...我的生活重心，到底在哪？到底...是什么？

我的生活没有多姿多彩，只有平平淡淡~平淡里有一些开心，也有一些不愉快...没什么好炫耀，也没有什么好分享...好无聊、很苦闷哦。

突然觉得自己的生活很废，活了那么多年，完全没有重心；日复一日，年复一年...活着到底是为了什么？我在乎的是什么？我的生活重心到底是什么？无奈+不解中...我还有多少年要过？是不是应该定一个“生活重心"，好让自己有理由去好好”关注“和”经营“自己的生活模式?



你的生活重心是什么？要不要来分享一下？

一年一post

糟糕了。。。好像真的一年一post了。。。
自从2015年至今，真的一年一post。。。
我到底在忙什么？

一，忙赚钱
二，忙结婚生子

工作上拼了那么多年，是时候休息了。
就来个两个月无薪假吧！
宁愿饿死都不要累死。

休息休息休息中~~
走走看看回忆中~~
想念好久不见的大家...

LuPorTi，苦妈，进哥哥，豆浆大哥，那个有兔子漫画的博客牧羊星，Mr. Lonely, Applefish，还有好多好多...
好想念大家...大家还有写部落吗？

老

好快~好快~！！

时间好像不是一分一秒的过去，而是一月一天的过！

是什么时候开始，觉得时间过得特别快？

时间...很奇妙...

过了就没有了，怎么追都没有可能把它带回来。

不知不觉（不想发觉），

自己的年龄越来越大了。

身体开始没那么灵活了。

心灵上成熟了许多，

对事情的看法、心态，都不一样了。

以前可以说，“我长大了”

现在的我，用“我老了”会比较适合。

老。

‘老’...可怕吗？

不会啊。

有什么好可怕的？

我老了。

所以？

就，

老了。

咯。

每一个人的生活不一样，

要求、渴望、向往的东西都不一样。

人的终极目标，是否就是“追求幸福”？

每一个人对幸福的定义都不同，

没得比较也没什么值得炫耀。

你的幸福是什么？

你幸福吗？

得到幸福过后，又怎样？

然后咧？

...

然后就是 EeSoon  太久没有写部落了！

在这里乱写一通！

也不知道自己要表达的是什么，

就是想要在这留些字迹。

就这样。

没有然后了。

掰掰。

Communication

Every human is different, and of course, everyone has different ways of thinking, perspective, opinions, point of views, ideas and thoughts. People that are having different opinions/thoughts will not necessary fight against each other nor disrespect each other. Sharing thoughts/opinions is one of the way of communication. I don't think sharing own thoughts will bring harm to anyone if you are using the correct word and tone of voice when you express yourself. (it's the art of language~~)

Obeying whatever a person said, keep own thoughts/opinions to self and assuming others won't accept your thoughts/opinion is not a correct way of communication. It does not mean you are respecting the other person instead, you are actually avoiding the communication and creating more misunderstands; the other person might thought you agree with his perspective and opinions but the truth is, you are feeling annoyed and have own perspective about the issue discussed. The particular person might think that his ideas are very good but in your heart, you know the idea won't work. Why not speak out?

Why do people choose to keep it silent when they know something is not right? Why do people so afraid to share when they know they have better ideas in their mind? Is it very hard to tell what you feel, share what you have, speak what you want? Especially to the closest ones, the family members!?

A son and a father are having a conversation. Both of them are discussing about an issue but both of them have different opinions and ways/ideas to solve the problem. It is not wrong for the son to voice out his thoughts, it is not wrong for the father to stick on to his own ideas too, that's call point of view, everyone has it! Their volume of voice maybe high when they are sharing/telling on their own opinions but that's a way of communication, nothing is wrong about that. Others may think they are fighting but both of them are just sharing thoughts, no hard feelings, they are just expressing their point of view on the issue. It's a healthy conversation and there's definately nothing wrong with them. 

But, .. somehow... there's always a "but". There are always third party~ who likes to restrict this kind of communication... for "peace" sake I suppose?? Talking loud and raising voice during conversation does not mean the person is disrespectful to one and other, they might just excite to tell what's in their mind, they are just sharing thoughts. So, what's wrong with that? Why do the third party wanted to stop them from the conversation?? Just walk away if you don't want to hear their conversation, you have no rights to deprive their freedom to speak!

I meet many parents everyday, and I get to see many types of conversations and communications between the parents and their children. Do you know what is the worst communication between parents and children? From what I see, and I can tell you, the worst communication is where the children are not allowed to express their own thoughts and being forced to obey and accept every word from their parents no matter it's correct or wrong. That's the worst communication ever! That's no communication, that's instructions! That's command! This kind of communication will only create an individual with no subjective, low self-confident, afraid to self-express and anxious in making choices. Parents oh parents, if you want your children to have confident to themselves, please give them the chance to speak, please, do not restrict their freedom to speak, please do not ruin their future! Communication skill is very important to everyone's life. I mean VERY important.

Have you ever think whether you are having the correct communication? When you speak, are you giving opinions or giving instructions? When you are in a conversation, are you commanding or sharing ideas?

My point is, giving suggestions/ sharing opinions/ expressing self through speaking is NOT equivalent to disrespect. Keeping silent/ obeying 100% to one and other all times, does not mean the person is happy with what he/she agrees on. So... people, SPEAK OUT!!!!!!!!! TELL what you feel, SHARE what you have, SPEAK what you want!!!! Stop restricting yourself from expressing what you REALLY feel. Be honest to yourself!!

Cute Little~

I have a white board in my room. I usually use it to write notes, reminders, plans, to-do-list, goals, important dates and etc etc etc. Whenever my friends came to my house, if they have chance to visit my room, they will surely somehow, leave something on the board automatically. Hahaha~ I find it funny and somehow, I feel warmth too. ^^

Ah~ I saw my camera before I rub it away... snap snap~~!!! hehehehe~~ blogging time~~~~ So the picture I am going to show, is the latest ones left on the board. All those were drawn by Mr. Boyfriend and also a good friend of mine~ animatorB.

Super Mario's mushroom?

by animatorB.

Cute little ... sushi? ^^

by animatorB.

Eat you!!! NyeeeeeeeYeee

add on by Mr. Boyfriend.

Singing skeleton~~ self-enjoying

by animatorB.

A clon of it... imitating imitating...

add on by Mr. Boyfriend.

Hippo dragging piggie... dunno why...

by Mr. Boyfriend.

Tadaaaa~~

That's all of them~~~

Actually there is one more... a drawing of a cup of tea... but... I erased it away... before I saw my camera... opss... hmm... so... ^^ Overall, they are cute right??? Ha haha~ love the drawing so so much~~ cuteee~

机会

机会，

是留给有准备的人的。

机会，

来了就要好好把握！

机会，

不是常常有，

也不会常常来，

更不会常常出现。

其实，

机会一直都在你身旁溜过~

你有发现到它们的存在吗？

如果你察觉到了，

请你好好利用它，

因为机会是不常被人类发现的。

除非你是一个警觉性非常高的人。

一个改变人生的机会，

随时都在你身旁出没，

只是...

你有察觉到吗？

而我，我的机会...

改变我人生的机会，

已经来了...到了。

只是...我要不要去接受这些机会呢？

愿不愿意改变我目前一成不变的生活呢？

无论如何，尝试了再打算。

这机会，我接受了。

会否改变我的人生，

那就拭目以待吧！

要切记，

机会永远都是留给有做准备的人的！

你不准备迎接，就请不要埋怨机会流失。

小对话

女：我会孤独终老吗？

男：不会。

女：你怎么知道？你为什么那么肯定？

男：因为我不会让你孤独终老。

女：（脸红红害羞，头低低的笑了）是嘛... ...?

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有时候一些简单对话听起来，还挺浪漫的~不是吗？

Remember?

Do anyone of you know what are these?

Or... do you guys remember what are those??

It's Chinese New Year card!

How many of you still sending handmade

Chinese New Year card to friends?

I guess... not many of you still did that.

But I do!! I am still doing it.

I mean, sending it when it comes to Chinese New Year.

Haha~

I was suppose to post these yesterday but

I forgot to buy stamp...

so... it's still here... with me.

I don't want these cards to reach its owner

after Chinese New Year...

I am going to send these cards soon~~~

Chinese New Year is around the corner!!!

2 more weeks to go~~!

yuhoo!!

Happy Chinese New Year

to everyone who is reading this~!!

知足

珍惜所拥有的，

懂得珍惜才会满足。

你是幸运的，也是幸福的。

请好好珍惜自己所拥有的一切。

不要去比较，

人与人之间没有什么好比较的。

每一个人有他自己的生活方式，

每一个人所拥有的东西都不一样。

所以没有什么好比较的。

停止比较，少了埋怨、少了不满，

生活必定会更轻松。

知足才会乐，懂得满足才不会埋怨。

EeSoon，不要再埋怨了，

其实你已经很幸福了，你知道吗？

要知足，真的。

Somehow... somehow...

I just went through FB and saw a picture of my friend. Somehow, I felt that we are not as close as we were before. Sometimes I felt like she is a stranger to me... how sad is that... We used to be so close... what change that? Previously, I thought it was me but now, I don't think so it's all because of me. She has changed.

Now that I have a boyfriend and my career has some changes, I wish to share with her about it and how I wish she can share with me about what she has been through recently too but... but but... there's always a but. But I don't dare to call her. Somehow I feel that she doesn't care and not willing to tell/share about her life to anyone including me any more.

I feel like I don't know who she is any more. Is it because of lack communication or... we just don't feel like want to bother each other any more? Or is it just merely because we are both busy and have no time to contact each other? I wonder..

I miss her very much. Hope to just give her a call and crap about almost everything on phone. But somehow, I don't think she wants that, she gives me the feeling that she feels annoyed and wasting time talking on phone with me? I don't know... I just got that feeling. What will happen if I call her now? hmm... I don't dare... still.

I just want to say that, I miss her very much. I miss her voice, miss the cheerful laugh of hers and the excitement feeling of sharing each other happiness and sadness. I really do miss all that.

Whenever I am happy or sad, she is the first person I think of to share. It is always her... since I was 13 until now, never changed. But.. something has block me to contact her. I feel stress when I talk to her... I felt afraid, uncomfortable, pressure, tied, worry, doubt, fake, bored... more negative feels than the positive ones... how sad.

How I wish we can talk freely like we used to be... no boundaries~ no partition, no critics, no comparison, no hard feelings... just be ourselves!

Maybe I just couldn't accept the real ... her. Or maybe I couldn't accept the real.. me. hmm... Somehow... somehow...

句子

我没事~~ 只是有点想念你而已。

想念你不代表我不好，对不？

所以我很好。

爱情里是没有对与错，

也没有公平可言，

只因它完全无法衡量。

当我说我想念你时，

请相信我是真的很想你。

当我需要你时，

你能马上在我身边出现吗？

会嫉妒及怕失去对方的原因只有两个：

一，对爱人没有足够的信任。

二，对自己没有足够的信心。

好想每天早上醒来，

第一眼看到的是你。

好想每晚都在你怀里入睡。

现在想着：

“如果能够每天都和爱人在一起，

那该有多好呀...”

若真正每天都和爱人在一起时，

到时，会否觉得厌烦呢？

Are you OK?

If a girl cry when she is sharing some of her past experiences,

that means she has not get over with that experience yet.

If a girl can tell you her past experience without tear dropping,

that means she has already get over and move on.

Do you agree?

I do.

Because I admit I am like that too.

Do not make a girl cry,

and then apology and thinks everything is alright.

Because that apology does not mean anything at all.

Sorry does not mean anything after you hurt her.

If you really do hurt a girl...

the only thing you can do,

is hope that the girl will be fine soon.

Girl will be fine,

she just need time to recover...

just like some sickness, you just need some rest to cure it.

Do anyone of you here just hurt a girl?

If you do, please give her some time.

Although apology does not mean anything,

but somehow it helps to comfort the girl.

So, keep on apologizing.

Reminder, make sure you stop when she ask you to stop.

because it could be very annoying to her.

Still, time is the best medicine to cure this hurting feeling.

Do not leave a girl alone when you know she is hurt.

Unless she repeats these to you more than 4 times:

"leave me alone, don't bother me."

If she did not says anything,

then keep on sticking to her and be quiet.

p/s: give her a hug if you thinks she needs it.

if she pushes you away,

that means she does not need it.

If she cries in your arms,

that means she needs it

and she is releasing her pain.

So... What is it?

"Do you love him?"

"Yes, of course!"

". . ."

"I love him."

". . ."

". . ."

"No, you don't."

"Yes, I do!!"

"Adore/like/love, are different, my friend."

". . ."

So, what's love?

How do you define it?

hmmm~~

This is a question with million answers and no answer.

What's yours?

Oh ooo ouu~

When I go through FB,

talked to friends/colleagues...

I found out...

people around me are having negative thoughts.

And you know what?

It kinda somehow affect me too... a little...

BUT, I am still positive, yeaah!

If you are feeling down now...

feeling like... giving up on something...

Hold it!!!

Be strong!!

Be motivated!!

Don't ever give up!!!

Think positively!!

EeSoon support all of you!

Dear friends,

nothing is impossible,

everything will be done well.

Everything will be just fine~

Work hard!!

Be positive, friends!!

You can do it!

Bad things goes, better things come.

challenges make you strong!!

difficulties make you learn!!

issues make you grow!!

So, take it! And settle it.

Love you all!!

Be positive always~

and cheers~~

muaxx!

tata.

preparation

Almost everything can be done perfectly

with sufficient preparation.

The point is: preparation is VERY important to a task.

If you are lazy to do preparation,

please do not expect success or anything more than that.

Because what you will get is always below that.

Unless, you are one of those lucky ones.

Luck is very important element for those who DON'T prepare.

Nothing is impossible,

please don't give excuses for your laziness

to achieve what you want.

Go! Prepare for what you want now!

All the best.

^^

睡

一天，就这样被我睡掉了。

睡了一整天，醒来后就会觉得后悔。

唉~ 每一次都一样。

为什么我那么会睡？

懒人！

可是...

爱睡觉就算懒吗？

Hugss

Hugs~

I love hugs~

a lot~~

Friends' hug~

Daddy's hug~

Mummy's hug~

Lover's hug~

Sisters' hug~

Brothers' hug~

Self hugging?

hehe...

just hugsss~

Express

Sometimes,

some words,

some sentences,

some thoughts...

are best to kept silent.

Sometimes,

you don't need to tell everything.

Get to the point,

just say what is in your mind.

Don't need long explanation,

don't need interpretation...

just, straight to the point.

That's it.

Pointless words?

Pointless thoughts?

Pointless sentences?

Pointless explanation?

What's the point of expressing it out?

Just leave it.

There's no need to express it out at all,

those are pointless anyway.

明天

明天，

明天。

明天~~~

是，明天！

没错！明天。

是明天，没错！！

明天要干吗？

明天要做么？

明天要干什么东东那么兴奋？

明天要去哪里?????

哈哈，

不-告-诉-你，

让你心思思~~~

*明天一定要带相机！！！*

*相片可说明一切~*

DiKa

自毕业后，我很少回到我的学院。

去年曾经回去一次，

目的是去上课程。

挥别几个月，今天，

我又回到了我的学院。

感觉...好怀念...

一踏入学院便有种莫名的温馨感~

这里好像是我的另一个家~~

很温暖。呵呵~

来来，打一下广告~

这就是培育我的地方: Kolej DiKa~

"Specialist in Early Childhood Education"